How easy it is to explain to a child where children come from
It is difficult for parents to tell a child how children appear. Partly due to the fact that questions about sex, they consider a taboo subject. And partly—from inability to choose words and phrases that would be understandable to the child and would describe the process accurately, but without unnecessary details. Because of this, the question "Where do the children come from" for a long time remains unclear, and can lead to serious problems for the child.
Kristen Gilbert, teacher of sexology at the American Center for Options for Sexual Health, advises on how to explain a child to conception and birth as simply as possible, and explains what the child’s false modesty of parents in matters of gender threatens the child.
If the child asks how the digestive system works, you will happily draw him pictures of the digestive system, take the books from the library. You will be terribly glad that your child is interested in biology, probably will boast that a future doctor is growing in your family!
But if the same child instead asks about the reproductive system (the one that, by the way, is next door to the digestive system), you will most likely have a different reaction. Why?
When you yourself were small, it seemed to you that sex is something shameful. And now it is difficult for you to give an honest and logical answer to your child.
The answer is simple. To make a new person, you need a man and a woman. They have a "copulation." This is when the cell man "sperm" is found with the cell woman "egg". When these cells meet, the child begins to grow. The child lives in the department of the woman "womb" until it is properly grown up and gaining strength.
When he has enough strength to become independent (usually it takes nine months), he comes to light in one of two ways: either through a special "vagina" channel, or through a safe operation "caesarean section."
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When you deceive your child with fairy tales about a stork, or worse, reproach him for a perfectly reasonable question: "Where did I come from," you teach him to be ashamed of his body and intimacy.Sex is a good and useful thing. This is an activity for adults, but there is nothing wrong with telling children about the moral and physical meaning of sex. By this you greatly simplify their subsequent life and maturity.
In addition, such conversations will help protect your child from sexual maniacs. The offender will not mess with the child, who is aware of what the genitals are needed for, understands the meaning of the actions and can repel or complain to the parents. Unaware children often hide their injury from their parents - they do not understand what happened, but they are too ashamed to share it.