What to do if a teenager does not want to celebrate New Year at home?
Many believe that the New Year is a family holiday! But not teenagers. For them, family values and traditions, as well as holidays, are more a burden than joy and wealth. It is because of this attitude towards the family and its traditions that many teenagers do not want to celebrate the New Year with their parents, they often want to celebrate this holiday with friends. How do parents respond to such desires of children? Let them go to your friends on a festive night or not?
We offer your attention a few tips on how to behave if a teenager does not want to celebrate New Year at home.
1. Do not panic and do not scandal.Many parents, having learned that their child is going to leave for friends on New Year's Eve, begin to panic and make trouble, accuse the child of irresponsibility, put pressure on him and persuade him to stay at home. Psychologists are advised to never do this.
Your panic and scandals can only lead to the fact that the child will no longer trust you, decides that you are his enemy and do not understand him at all. As soon as your child tells you about his intention to celebrate the New Year with friends, it is better to remember your early years.
Remember how you wanted to get rid of parental care, organize such a holiday as you want, listen to your favorite music all night long, and not watch a boring blue light with your mom and dad. Understand that your child wants all of this too, try to understand him, he wants to grow up rather than interfere with him.
2. Find out all the details.Of course, you, like any parent, are very worried about the health of your child, so you don’t want to let him go to where it is not known, to celebrate the holiday with people unfamiliar to you. Therefore, in order to be calmer, it is better to find out from your child where they plan to celebrate a holiday with friends.
If this happens at home with one of the friends, then ask if the parents of this friend will be there. Find out how they plan to spend the night, what they will cook at the holiday table, who organizes. It is possible that your child will tell you far from everything, but believe me, this information will be enough to understand how safe this event will be for the child.
Remember that no one knows the whole truth, it's normal, that's the nature of things. Yes, do not forget to call your child after midnight to congratulate him on the holiday and at the same time find out how they are doing there, and also remind you that you are waiting for him for a holiday dinner.
3. Do not be offended.Many parents are very offended that their child refuses to celebrate the New Year in their company. Not worth it. Understand, it's normal that your child wants to change something in his life, remember, he now has an age of experiments, let him try new things. He wants to be with friends, not because he does not love you, but because everything new and unknown attracts him, and with you he has already celebrated the New Year, what is so interesting about it?
4. Advise.If according to your child’s stories about the upcoming holiday, it becomes clear to you that there is no definite organizer of the celebration, that it is completely incomprehensible that they will eat on New Year's Eve and how to have fun, then you can advise your child how best to organize the holiday.
In order for your advice not to look obtrusive and instructive, connect your own experience of teenage holidays and your many years of experience in organizing celebrations.